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  • Church Policies About LGBT Christians

    If you’ve served in leadership at a church or a Christian organization, policies about LGBT people have surely come up. It comes up when a lesbian couple asks to have their baby dedicated or baptized. Policies are questioned when a boy in the youth group begin...

  • What I’ve Been Up To And Into

    I was on a panel at Calvin College earlier this week to talk about sexual orientation change efforts. The stories are heartbreaking and, sadly, they're about a movement that's still very much alive. Young people are still sent to Christian conversion organizat...

  • Saints For The Rest Of Us

    No one prepares you for the lows in life. We’re well-versed in stories of triumph over struggles, but no one taught us how to go on living when we’re lost. We become drifters in different seasons for different reasons, whether it’s the loss of a loved one, a c...

  • You Don’t Need Permission To Take Your Seat At The Table

    My favorite part of speaking around the country is getting to listen to stories from other cities. I like to sit in circles with small groups of new friends, hear stories about their communities, and encourage them in whatever ways I can. A common theme that c...

  • How to Stand Strong with a Soft Heart

    Tomorrow Donald Trump will be the President of the United States of America. Even if he’s #notyourpresident, he will be the President of the United States, and we have to figure out how we’re going to order our lives during a Trump presidency. I know we’re all...

  • Back to Blogging: Some Updates and Hopes

    After an extended break from blogging, I’m back in the game. I initially stepped away at my employer’s request, and then I continued to lay low because life happened. My views on how the church can best support LGBT people shifted, which was kind of a big deal...

  • A Place For LGBTQ College Students Who Won’t Feel Safe With InterVarsity

    In May of this year, I was invited by the InterVarsity chapter at UCLA to speak about what it’s like to be a gay Christian. The crowd was packed with LGBTQ students who came because they heard a lesbian Christian was going to talk about Jesus. Some came for th...

  • Forgiveness

    Shortly after I graduated from college, I sat down with an old mentor and told her about the years that had passed since we’d last been together. I told her about the highs (like running a marathon) and the lows (like failing fitness class). We talked about my...

  • How The Church Can Show Up After The Pulse Shooting

    Just when LGBT people started to feel safe to be out and open in public, our community was targeted for the deadliest mass shooting in U.S. history. And within hours of learning about the massacre at Pulse, we heard a man from Indiana was arrested on his way t...

  • A Response to Russell Moore’s article “The Real Meaning of Transgender Bathrooms”

    Russell Moore wrote an article today about the Obama administration’s move to protect trans students in public schools across the country. While I disagree with Moore on many topics, I respect him as a compassionate leader and I’ve appreciated the ways he’s ch...

  • Behind the Veil of Grace

    We were in Switzerland and I was too wasted to find my way home. We had hitchhiked up the mountain to grab some beers, and it was all good fun until a guy named Josh turned to me and asked what I was running from back home. Since I didn’t want to tell him that...

  • Religious Freedom Laws Gone Wrong

    It’s no surprise that after marriage equality passed last year, there’s now a backlash against LGBT people in states across the country. Conservatives feel their long-held positions of power slipping through their fingers as the public shifts to support equali...

  • A Better Conversation About LGBT People In The Church

    My recent conversation with Wesley Hill at City Church got me thinking about all things gay celibacy. Wes was one of the founders of the blog, Spiritual Friendship, which hosts the most prominent group of LGBT Christians who believe marriage is between a man a...

  • How I Was Moved To Support Same-Sex Marriage In The Church

    Your beliefs don’t shift in an instant. We research and agonize, bouncing between hope and despair, until one day we hear ourselves say something a former version of ourselves would never have said. That’s how I came to support same-sex marriage in the church....

  • Grace in the Crisis of Authority

    “So what do you believe about same-sex marriage—like, where are you theologically?” I was asked some version of this question by close friends, pastors, reporters, and strangers on the internet after I wrote a post in support of same-sex marriage over the summ...